Gratitude
Are you practicing daily gratitude?
Gratitude is not a new concept. Gratitude dates back to philosophers who recognized the importance in this concept and few would argue even further back.
The standard definition of gratitude is "an emotion expressing appreciation for what one has, as opposed to what one wants". Too often we think of gratitude as just saying "thank you" to someone when they do something kind for us. However, gratitude is much more than that.
What science tells us about gratitude is that there is a linked association with the areas of the brain that deal with value, judgement, reward, and morality. When gratitude is expressed, the brain has a biological response which involves a surge of those feel-good chemicals, aka, dopamine.
So not only do we feel good physically when we are grateful, but gratitude helps strengthen our relationships as well. When we express gratitude, we are usually more willing to forgive others and to accept what is going on around us.
Science has identified that the human brain cannot feel gratitude and resentfulness, or any other negative emotions (depression, anxiety, etc.) at the same time. Yes, you read that right... if you're truly focusing on gratitude, you cannot feel negative emotions in that moment. With that being the case, who wouldn't want to be consistently grateful?
I understand that in the midst of chaos or a negative season in your life, it can be challenging to identify something you are grateful for. However, it can be anything; the food you just consumed, the clothes you are wearing, a supportive relationship, etc. The importance is not so much about what you're grateful for, but rather the gratitude and appreciation itself.
One gratitude tool that I found very helpful in honing in on gratitude and assign to my clients as well, is the G.L.A.D journaling technique. See picture below for description of each letter.
A helpful tool for practicing gratitude with children who aren't completely ready for the journaling is to take time to sit with them and ask them to list some things they're grateful for. It helps to model this for them and share your own gratitude.
Gratitude is such a powerful tool in our tool box and it's 100% free to practice. Let's be skillful and practice gratitude!
